Marriage is a beautiful institution and many people just love the idea of getting married someday to that one person they love so much. Preparations for the wedding and all other things culminate in that D-Day, which is often characterised by love songs, smiles, ‘free’ food, and a hundred and one pictures. For the couples at weddings, however, that day is more than just an event; it’s more than just the exchange of rings and posing for the cameras. It’s more of what comes next.
The Heavy Lifting
The phase after “Yes, I do” is between the now man and wife. After the honeymoon and all the euphoria of being newly married, what comes next? Life goes back to normalcy (if even there is a thing like that) for the guests who came for the wedding but for the duo, it’s time for planning; planning to live together as a family, friends and so much more. Who handles bills? Who provides food in the house? How are finances going to be managed? The list of questions goes on and on but the bond between the two grows even stronger when there is an understanding of the answers to these questions and many others.
On the contrary, when there is no understanding of those issues and one partner handles most or all the bills and expenses, is the marriage likely to work? What many people in Ghana might have seen growing up were their mothers being always available at home whereas their fathers went out to work and bring money home. Times have changed and so now, many men actively seek out women who work before they may even consider marriage. A ‘working woman’ therefore is a spec for the typical Ghanaian man as that means shared financial responsibilities. Nothing is more annoying than having to handle all financial responsibilities because your husband or wife is unemployed. Whiles this may be the case in many young marriages, the weight of this responsibility eventually, develops into resentment, and that is where the problems begin. But is love not enough to make such a financial weight bearable?
Middle Grounds
Well, for a man to go ahead and take the bold step of marriage to a woman who has no job in these times, it should mean he loves the woman so much to ignore such vital detail, right? In fact, it could be for many reasons and not just about love. Maybe he has a high-earning job and doesn’t mind if the lady works or not. Men like that see their wives always being home without a job as a trivial issue since they are still able to provide a soft life for themselves, their wives, and children if any. It could also be that the man prefers a stay-home wife since he draws inspiration from how his mum was always at home and made everything near perfect there. But will women these days willingly agree to this?
Communication and Understanding
Regardless of whatever reason, that will make a man marry a woman who is not working, communication plays a key role in marriages just as love does. Once the duo is able to communicate and understand each other’s preferences and needs, the effects of one partner not working doesn’t become utterly annoying to any of them before the “Yes, I do” and even after.
It’s all about the right communication and understanding. But would you marry a man or woman who is unemployed? Let’s know what you think.