Who we choose to date or get entangled with is entirely up to us on any day. Yet, there seems to be some kind of undocumented rules and regulations when the person we wish to get involved with is the ex of a close or familiar person. It could be a sister, brother, or best friend’s ex.
There are a lot of considerations you have to make before saying ‘Yes’ to the proposal or going ahead to propose to the ex of that close person in your life. So, anytime you find yourself in such a situation you might want to consider the following:
Inform Your Friend/Sibling About Your Intention
Get to know how they feel about it and what their comments will be. Going ahead to date their exes without their knowledge can at times, destroy whatever bond you two share. Well, unless you are ready to lose some friendships and family bonds because of your knight in shining armor…
Find Out The Cause Of The Breakup
Many things happen when people are in a relationship. There might be some disagreements and misunderstandings here and there. Whatever might be the case, make sure you know what necessitated a breakup between the two. Get both sides of the story before you go ahead to date the person in question.
Be Sure He/She Has Moved On
You should know how long they have been separated and if they are over each other. You don’t want the case where you will be used to overcome a broken heart nor do you want to be the third wheel in a relationship.
Avoid Singing The Exes Name Anytime You Are Around Your Friend
Maybe your friend or sibling is completely over their ex. And it’s fine to get along with them. You should reduce if not avoid, talking about your new boyfriend and your numerous dates and kisses around your close friend. We get it that you’re in love but consider how the other party will feel, especially when he/she had a painful past with the ex.
No matter the decision you take, consider your happiness too. If the friend you have isn’t really close to you and their opinions don’t matter that much, then perhaps, there’s no need to inform that friend about it.
What do you think about dating your friend’s ex? Is the idea good or bad? Let us know what you think and why. It’s always good to hear from you.
For my group, a friend’s ex is a no go area
No go area indeed. I hope that this view is held by many. Your opinion is very much appreciated, Savior.
Everyone deserves a fresh start i think. Away from the pasts