There is a popular saying that goes like this: “the break-up will reach everyone”. This is said as a joke most of the time but when you really think about it, breakups have become more rampant in this era than any other. What could be causing that surge?
They can be served either hot or cold. When it’s your turn, how do you handle it? Society has framed breakups in a way that portrays women as the ones who suffer most from breakups, while men just move on as though the relationship never existed.
Is that the case? Do men really move on without batting an eye? Men take these unfortunate twists differently as society has taught them to man up in every situation. From extreme reactions such as closing up one’s heart and mind to love to other reactions such as crying, here are some stages that men go through after breakups.
The Anger Stage
Immediately after a breakup, men have the tendency to angrily blame the other partner for being in the wrong. They are often blinded by the anger and hence, do not see what they were doing wrong to necessitate a breakup. This can take weeks. Some move to excessive drinking and frequent outings just to get rid of the pain.
Deliberation
After weeks of pain and anger, they tone down a bit. This is where they begin to put one and two together of what should and shouldn’t have been done to avoid the whole situation. Mind you, although this is common, it differs from man to man. Some do not get to this stage. Especially when the woman is in the wrong here. They remain in the anger stage.
Acceptance
Here, he comes face to face with the truth that he either messed up or didn’t do what was expected of him. Accepting a wrong that caused you pain is quite difficult. The man may feel the woman could have been more patient or shown him the right path instead of leaving. They begin to realize the impact the lady had.
Attempt to Right Wrongs
Genuine love they say has no end. When the man loves the woman, he will try to make amends by apologising and asking for a second chance or accepting that he deserved the breakup.
In spite of all these stages, some men never really move on. They change completely. Love has its own way of making and unmaking people.
What was your breakup experience? How did you get through it?